Download PDF THE ESSENTIAL FAMILY GUIDE TO Borderline Personality Disorder New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells by Randi Kreger

Sinopsis

Borderline personality disorder is a serious mental illness that causes those who have it to see people and situations as all good or all bad; to feel empty and without an identity; and to have extreme, blink-of-an-eye mood swings. People with BPD act impulsively; their self-loathing and extreme fear of abandonment can cause them to lash out at others with baseless criticism and blame. Some practice self-harm or see no other option than suicide as a way to end their pain.

People with borderline personality disorder experience the world much differently than most people. For reasons we don’t entirely understand, the disorder distorts critical thought processes, resulting in emotions and actions that are out of the norm.

If we could look inside the heads of people with BPD to see the way they think, we’d find out they live in a world of extremes. To them, people and situations are all good or all bad, with nothing in between. They don’t just admire or respect someone—they elevate that person to an impossible standard and then knock him down when he inevitably disappoints them. They see themselves this way, too, so that one small misstep leads them to think, I am a worthless person.

If you could snap your fingers and, by magic, experience what a BP feels, you would be overwhelmed by self-loathing, an intense fear of being abandoned, and a relentless sense of emptiness. Irritability and depression would be there, too, a steady drumbeat blocking out feelings of joy and even simple satisfaction. “BPD is a cancer that eats away at my body, mind, and soul,” says one woman with the illness.

It’s easy enough to observe how BPs act. Actions, unlike thoughts and feelings, are obvious. They’re what make people with BPD so hard to live with. BPs behave impulsively, not thinking things through. Some deliberately hurt themselves—they make themselves bleed or they attempt suicide. They may spend too much money, engage in dangerous sex, abuse drugs or alcohol, drive recklessly, shoplift, or eat in a disordered way.

People with BPD repeatedly pull people toward them—often desperately—and then brusquely shove them away through bitter criticism, unappeasable rages, and fits of irrational blaming. They elevate people onto a lofty pedestal and then push them off. Some BPs put people into no-win situations and make absurd accusations. 

Content

1. Chapter 1: Welcome to Oz
2. Chapter 2: Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder
3. Chapter 3: Making Sense of Your Relationship
4. Chapter 4: Risk Factors of BPD
5. Chapter 5: Treating BPD
6. Chapter 6: Finding Professional Help 
7. Chapter 7: Power Tool 1: Take Good Care of Yourself
8. Chapter 8: Power Tool 2: Uncover What Keeps You Feeling Stuck
9. Chapter 9: Power Tool 3: Communicate to Be Heard
10. Chapter 10: Power Tool 4: Set Limits with Love
11. Chapter 11: Power Tool 5: Reinforce the Right Behavior

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